Immigration begin since 1985,more southern sudanese families immigrated with their young daughters.and many sudanese girls travell too.In the land of immigration we get big families with their beatiful ladies .but still brothers come back to africa for marriage, and refuse our own skin ladies, and i wonder and asked thousand of question .what is wrong with our ladies in immigration land? it seem the nature of new envirement change matual love, but we must encourage people not to forget their culture, origin, destination. if you dont marriage our ladies in the immigration land, and come to africa to marriage, therefore we will lose them.envirement never change a grown up people.dear brothers and sisters we should not for get our tradition and culture.woman is a man helper . in usa, australia, canada,woman are making trouble with their mens.why should we forget our culture.why should,nt we adopt the way our parent was been living. by your brother
Thanks for raising that sensitive question. It's very true that many guys opts to get married to women in Africa then those staying in north America for few reasons known to themselves.
Personally, I want to get married to a chick back at home because, after studying the culture of America, I felt it's not the best my kids should adopt. I believe wives are the best and closest teachers of the young ones and that is why it's always important to get a wife trustful to teach the kids but not to satisfy one's sexual need.
It's now a challenge to our sisters in north America to pull up thier socks to cope our needs. I am not saying that they will not get other gentlemen, but they might end up with others short of thier expectations.
Do you have the same problem in Cairo? Let us know please.
Hello Mr David Deng Kak , first of all I would like to thank you for joining Mading aweil discussion board from Cairo, Egypt , I think you are the first Aweil citizen to share on this board from Egypt so thank you for that and let others know about the board. Second I think you brought up a good topic , when you ask the question and answer it by yourself,if you to know how did you answer your question it is like this. you said why do people come back to Africa for marriage and we have our girls from where ever Aweil citizens are that was agood point , but you said a gain that you hear women are making trouble with their men according to my understanding that might be the reason why people go back to marriage. Third my comments to you is this that kind of topic can bring up some disputes if everyone try to express his felling about something like I am saying that because I saw some disputes on this board a month ago . thank you and have a good night man
Dear Mr. Deng Deng Kak, how are you over there in Egypt with your family and friends. Its very good and execiting for everyone to believe that your struggling writing on the Aweil website disscussion board and a writers of cases, filling forms for people who want to immigrat from Egypt to Europe. In regarding to your question that have been by many people correctly as well as you had answered it. My self James Weiu. I was a good example man who got difficulties when I married in front of you in Egypt. I was been arrested, cost of money and many anxiety. Here in Europe is more worse as a matter of diferent of the society and Western cultures that perjudice our young people and diffreniated them from their identities of who they are. I you a man who maintain your identitiy as Dinka from your way of dresses or clothes, your speech and your mantality as Southern, you will be married in Europe. They will think that your more traditional man or woman. There are many names to call you if you are a person of this groups. Or if a group of ladies living togather or a lone, then for a man of the above group will go to married the girl in Sudan living with her family.
I argued the Southerners, that even people who had married in Sudan and home are very happy only for 3-4 years and adopt the assimilation into environment systems. That means brothers who want to marriage at home are in need of just the four years good life and start a gain worry! like before.
People go back to find original African women with pure cultural intact. It is good to marry someone who is ready to make a family as a mother, a wife, and accept responsibilities involved altogether.
I am not saying those girls here lack such values, but I have not come across a Sudanese girl here in the west who maintain these values to their minute intricacy.
Going to Africa and bringing wives from Africa is getting so easier that, there could be no point to get wasted in a foreign land in which no posterity will ever hold a stake in nothing other than mere basic means of living.
Go home and start a good family, then come over.
You may look around if there are changes coming along the way.
Thank you for your question, but before I go farther, I would like to remind you with one thing. I think that you have been staying in Egypt for a couple of years and may be you have had experienced some situations with girls being married by some guys in U S, Canada or Australia.According to what you see, are they doing right things? Of course the answer is no. Some of them used to run away from their husbands and complain that the man is too old enough and she can not accept to be his wife. Otherwise, if people continue to put too much pressure on her, for accept her husband, she will say that she is going to commite sucide rather than staying with this man or that. I didn't mean that all of them are bad, but to bring one from (Pan Muonyjang) southern Sudan, is the best of all, and if she comes, one can offer education fo because nothing is impossible here in Europe or in the whole world. Within the Sudan, some women were married uneducated but now, they are the leaders. So nothing immpossible as I have mentioned above. You can bring her from countryside and she can listen to you rather than those who here in Europe
On top of that,for some birdegerooms in Egypt, when the man is still away, she might have been doing some evil things with those who intend to get both wife and money without sweating. Also you have mentioned that you heard some women are affecting their husbands here in Europe, that was a very good answer to your question why do our brothers go back to Africa for marriage.
The girls who are here are trying their level best to be whiter than (Kawajat) white people because they are using cream all the time until their appearences become fearfull.
In other words, what will people do with girls who dislike their natural skins? What will people do with girls who don't know why we letf southern Sudan? What will people with girls who don't having children because some involved in abortion when ever they become aware of it. Whereas we are in need of children because they will be the power of our nation southern sudan.
Let us put in our minds that, we will not benifit from these girls who had come to Europe without being married.
It is true what Dinka say " Near road, its death is very near and the far raod, its death is very far ". So let our brothets go back to Africa such that they can gain their long life.
I do apologize to forgive me in advance if I have mentioned non-expected events. However, the question have drawn my attention so I have to express my feelings towards southern Sudanese girls in western conutries.
I think the reason why people go back to Africa to get marriege too is because that the ladies here overseas have lose the respect we use to have which we were tought by our parents. the reason girls lose that pride is because we do not have a strong sence of community, there is no oneness specially where i'm here in Adelaide Southe Australia. Young Ladies never get an opportunity to learn what and how our culture goes.
Me personnally would not go against them because they d not know what they are doing. Mading Aweil Community have to be always strong as it is use to be, our elders or older people of the community knows what is right for girls and for all of us but than they do not teach what they complain about.
first of all my brother deng kak.I would like to say hi and how are you doing? I hope you in a great health and hopeley in the future be able to meet you.I'm responding to your question why brothers go back to africa to get marriage? there are so many reasons why young men in the united states go back home to get marriage . the girls here in u.s adopted a new culture which we see is against our believes and culture. also I would like to agree withe you in one matter like you said why can we find a solution and marriage our young women here in u.s .that sound reasonable too,but nobody wants to end up with a girl that he doesn't trust.
mr phillip aguot. I was going through mading forum and I came across your answer regarding why people go back to africa to get marriage? you mentioned that this topic shouldn't be posted on this forum, so where do you wanted it to be posted? because you agree with Mr.Deng Kak ideas,but you dont want it posted,so let say this topic wasn't posted where would you find it to agree with MR.Deng?
that a really important question, and i am pertty sure that you have known the reason right now.
my greatings to the family over there.
and I am happy to let you know that my brother and his children has arrive to khartoum safely. any way this is my tell. you can call me when approprate. 574-232-2355 you brother Akon
You are right only in the topic that our ladies will be lost that is right but infact the problem is in the children who a dopted the American or Australian or any other culture did you think they would be like our mother since we are young one day i didn't saw a women who can disobey his husbands orders as she could also divorce the husband by her maner as our mother had nothing called boyfriend since she is married and we had no right to call police to our parent when the punish us if one do so the police man himself would arrest you than arresting your parents, so how could one burn up himself?
